In the process of trying to get through this winter hair rut, and rejuvenate my mane, I decided to straighten my hair. I do this every 1-2 years. I allows me to see how much my hair has truly grown and to properly trim my ends. I trim my ends a little when I twist my hair. I just cut off all the straggly ends that hag from the twist. But I know its not as thorough as if an actual stylist does it. I searched Groupon for deals on some natural hair stylist. I previously got a blow out at a Dominican shop, and while I was pleased with the results I was not pleased with the experience. The stylist made me brush out my own hair dry before she washed it. This, although seemingly outrageous, is not an uncommon event for me. The same thing happened when I went to get senegalese twist, and to make things worse I was 8 months pregnant at the time. I found a place in a nearby city that had a deal. It was quite convenient because my cousin, also my son’s God mom, lives there so she could babysit while I got my hair done. I was ready to give this place a try at styling my precious mane.
When I told the stylist the experiences I had with other “professionals” making me brush my own hair she was appalled. Her reply was “that’s what you pay us for, to have someone else do your hair, so you can relax.” It was music to my ears. She seemed well aware of how to work with natural hair. She finger combed through my hair a little before washing, then came shampoo and conditioner. After the wash and condition I sat at the chair, where she detangled my hair with…..a wide tooth comb! Can you believe it? She then proceeded the blow dry my hair, flat iron, trim, and curl it. I wish I had remembered my heat protection and anti frizz serum, but hopefully there isn’t any heat damage. The trimming stage hurt my heart, because it dramatically reduced my length. I had to get over it, because those were damaged ends and it would only cause more breakage to keep them. It still noticed a considerable amount of growth since my last blow out. The stylist has a sister that does braids. Although I typically try to do my own hair, or have a family member do it when I want braids, I will make this my go to shop when I want special treatment. Its even better that I can go to one place for blow outs, curl sets, and braids.
I wore my hair out for the rest of that day, admiring my length. That night I wrapped it, and kept it that way all Sunday. It was my goal to keep it up with as little heat as possible. It was very voluminous the next day, because it started to puff up a little bit. For the remainder of the week I wore it in various pony tails, something else I can’t do regularly without stretching my hair out in some way. I flat ironed it once again the next Sunday. Then for the rest of the week once it started to revert I did a bantu knot set.
I always have mixed feelings when people compliment my straightened hair. My students say “OMG, you look so pretty”, as if I’m not with my afro. I try not to take it personally, because most people are trying to be nice. Although one of the older, teacher assistants took it a little farther. She said “I know your husband’s happy.” I proudly said, “actually he prefers my natural hair.”Not every one felt as that particular teacher assistant does. There is yet another TA at my school, who is always raving about my natural hair, because since her treatment for breast cancer she has never been able to get her texture back. She walked right past me and said “I didn’t even recognized you, it so long and pretty…but you know I love the natural, girl.” My husband also, love my afro. Even when I have braids, he bugs me about when MY hair will be out again. So, when I straighten it, he compliments my length, but then says “it’s just not you anymore.” I love that he is so supportive and admires me for who I am, from my head to my toes.
Straightening my hair is supposed to be like a reset for me to restart my healthy hair regimen. The next step is protective styling. I’ll probably get crochet twist to keep in for 6-8 weeks, then go from there. I just the versatility of my mane.
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I been cutting my own hair for few years now, but the way I been cutting it, I might need it cut by someone else, because my top hair is longer than the under hair from the top hair, so I don’t know if I can cut my hair again when I want to, maybe my vaines, but I don’t know about my hair.
I also prefer a girl to cut my hair, with the fingers going through my hair, but it will be okay for a guy to cut my hair, just so my hair cut looks good, that all that matters.
Would love to see a pic of your hair as it is now… but anyway, great post! How you always been natural… I did a big chop 6 years ago and have never gone back since.
Their is a picture I use on my blog that is a more recent picture of me.
My intent was to include a picture of my straightened hair, but once it started to revert, I did a Bantu knot out rather than add more heat.
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The nerve of some people and their comments..smh I can’t stand for people to be like, I bet your happy its straight or your look so much better. As if I asked you for your opinion or approval…lol. My hubby is the same way, he would prefer me in my natural state then any other style. I have not straighten my hair in about a couple of years so I have no clue how long it is lol.
I’m just glad he loves it, his support is probably a big reason I’ve been comfortable enough to stay natural. Its even encouraged him to grow his hair out. He’s multiracial but always kept a short cut and until he grew it out within the past year he didn’t even know he had curly hair.
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lol it’s funny they don’t know what their hair can do, but it’s awesome to see the growth.
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