Our Curly Hair Family

For about the past 1.5 years everyone in my household has been rocking their natural curls. My journey started in the summer of 2009 when I started transitioning, I did the big chop in December. My son was born and he has not had the “coming of age” hair cut of African American boys at the age of 1 or 2. My husband is multi-racial and pretty much because nobody knew another way, he always got low haircuts, like black men he was surrounded by. Since September of 2015 he’s grown it out. He didn’t even know his hair curled before that. We’ve all had our own separate journeys in this process, but I have major pride for my curly haired family.

Me

My path as naturalista is pretty steadfast and permanent. I have no intentions of going back to the creamy crack. I have however, though of getting locks. Although, I would still be natural, I wouldn’t be able to show off my curly texture. I have seen people that have taken their locks out, I used to think the only way to not have locks anymore was to cut them off. At least now I know that if it did choose to lock my hair I wouldn’t have to cut all my growth and although it would be a laborious process, I would comb them out and have my curls back. Yay! I think I will make that transition, either when I am grey or if my husband and son cut their hair.

My Husband

My husband is happy with his curls. I think its a part of him realizing and accepting his heritage. His curls are soft, shiny, and thick. When he first started growing his hair we though it would be wavy, but as it grew longer to our surprise it started to curl into these thick rings. I LOVE his hair and hope he doesn’t cut it short again, but he gets frustrated when it is hot and hanging on his neck. I have also found that he is very particular about his hair, we just didn’t know before because it was always so low maintenance.  Now if it isn’t curling or falling the way he likes he thinks its a mess. I think it glorious however. I wish he would rock his man bun or pony, but he is convinced it isn’t long enough yet. I’ll get him when its time for Otakon though, he won’t be able to resist wearing a samurai top knot.

My Son

My son has been growing his hair since birth. Once he really started growing hair, he has shown a lot of growth. He always had curls, but I think at 1.5 years they really started to turn into the cute bouncy curls he has now. My students say he looks like Corbin Blue. I will keep growing his hair until he gets older. I’d say at least by 2nd or 3rd grade and if he wants it cut, I’ll get it cut. Although, even if its cut, I’d prefer if he kept an inch or 2 to still have curls. We did go through I brief moment of weakness, when we wanted to cut his hair on his 3rd birthday, coming up next month. He was getting so fussy each night when I had to wash and detangle it. I had to co-wash it every other night, otherwise it would look wild and unruly. I did figure out a system that would work. I started washing his hair on Sundays and doing box braids. He wears the braids for 2-3 days, then I take them out. He wears his defined curls a couple of days. Once they reached the end of their road I’ll put his hair in a bun or ponytail. One day I will learn to cornrow, but for now he gets that done when we’re visit my mom or if his aunt does it.

This spring we HAVE to take some family photos to show off these wonderful head of coils. I’m not sure what the future holds for us. I do know that at the very least my son and husband will grow their hair until its long enough to donate to Locks of Love. Until then I will enjoy us being a beauty bouncy curled family. Whatever everyone’s choices or preferences we’ll be a beautiful family not matter what.